Frequently Asked Questions
We know family law can feel overwhelming—and sometimes, just getting clear answers makes all the difference. Below you’ll find thoughtful responses to the questions we hear most often, designed to help you feel informed, prepared, and empowered as you move forward.
Does cheating affect alimony in North Carolina?
Yes. In North Carolina, cheating can affect alimony, and in some cases it decides whether alimony is paid at all. The law calls it "illicit sexual behavior," and it only counts if it happened during the marriage and on or before the date of separation.
Here is how the statute treats it:
- If the dependent spouse cheated, the statute directs the court not to award alimony
- If the supporting spouse cheated, the statute directs the court to order alimony for a dependent spouse
- If both spouses cheated, the judge may award or deny alimony after looking at all the circumstances
- If the cheating was condoned, meaning forgiven, the court does not consider it
Either spouse may ask for a jury to decide whether marital misconduct happened. Cheating is also not the only factor: judges look at income, needs, the length of the marriage and more when setting the amount and how long it lasts.
We cover that in how a judge determines whether a spouse is a dependent spouse, and our spousal support page explains the bigger picture.
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